thank you for your reply and I told them I was uncomfortable to deals out side of ebay and rather than wait for me to get package from them and then resend new package it would take after Xmas - to buy the new size and that I will refund the money for the first ones bid price when I get it in same condition it was sent - this way EBAY AND PAYPAL GET THE BLame " for their rules that say no out side deals "
wasnt THAT a bright idea?