Steph I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this. And your kids too, its not fair to them to be drug into this
Luckly for me we have decent neighbors who I know would talk to us personally if they felt there was a problem. The people who built the house next door are older and their kids are grown. He is a minister and they have told us how happy they are to have us for neighbors and they look forward to many years of watching my boys grow up!