Thanks for the reply Joe. I did use spoof@ebay.com to report this so I guess its time to forget about it and be more careful next time.
I use AOL e-mail and I can see link destination but I doubt that it would have made me suspicious if I had looked. The destination is as long as my 17" screen is wide and filled with references to ebay and dispute etc., then ends with cgi.ebay.com\, so if I had looked I would likely still have thought it was for real.