There have always been two sets of rules at eBay. But I've never run afoul of the set that applies to me.
Your monster sellers have as many negatives as I'd expect them to have. When you do thousands of transactions a month, not everyone is going to be happy. Bargainland sold close out crap. You get what you pay for. Some people apparently don't understand that.
I don't feel I'm in any competition with the big guys. I have nothing in common with them, nor do they with me.
I can't stay mad forever. eBay isn't worth getting an ulcer over. It's there to make money off of, whatever money I can get. I still say there's some logic in my thoughts.
As for "disliking eBay", I've disliked them for years, but at the same time have made thousands. I have to keep that dislike in perspective.